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Home / Treating the Perfectionist: CBT for Perfectionism Workshop – with Daniel Mirea, BABCP Accredited Psychotherapist

How to help the perfectionist client…

How to break the cycle of ‘when is perfect, perfect enough?

Perfectionism is not about excellence or healthy development but a rather sophisticated cognitive and behavioural mechanism (including a series of false autosuggestions) that internally sounds something like this: ‘if I deliver at 100% all the time and if I look perfect all the time and if I achieve 100% academically all the time, I shall no longer feel ashamed, embarrassed and will no longer be judged for underperforming – everyone will love and accept me then’.

Striving for a specific ‘reward’, whether material, professional or academic success, is wired into our neurological system and can be healthy for both the mind and body. However when suffering from low mood and low self-esteem, perfectionism is usually turned into an unhealthy obsession by constantly shifting the goal posts or aiming for unrealistic or even impossible standards.

According to Roz Shafran (2002) “the overdependence of self-evaluation on the determined pursuit (and achievement) of self-imposed, personally demanding standards of performance in at least one salient domain, despite the occurrence of adverse consequences” explains the mechanism behind perfectionism.

This obsessive drive forward is often misread by significant others (for example immediate family) as ambition. There is a threshold nonetheless, observable to the trained eye, by the experienced clinician who understands the difference between pathological tendencies that reinforce an anxiety or a depressive disorder and a healthy motivation to achieve.

About Daniel Mirea

Daniel Mirea is an accredited CBT consultant, senior lecturer, researcher and writer who trained and worked with some of the most recognisable clinicians in the United States and UK over the years (i.e. Donald Meichenbaum, Gilbert P,  Corrie S, Padesky C, Young J, Hays S, Linehan M, Emmy van Deurzen, etc.).

He currently writes workshops, doctoral programmes and trains in different cognitive and behavioural approaches.

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